Create Safe, Honest, and Healing Conversations
Struggles No One Talks About
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You’re unsure how much of your child’s birth history to share—and when -
You worry that the truth might hurt your child more than help them -
You feel unprepared to talk about topics like abuse, violence, or incarceration -
You find yourself avoiding conversations because you don’t want to say the wrong thing -
You struggle with your own emotional reactions to your child’s history -
You fear your child will internalize shame or blame about what happened before you -
You want to be honest—but also protective, gentle, and age-appropriate -
You feel alone, without a clear guide to help you navigate these moments -
You wonder how to create conversations that foster healing, not confusion or pain

Unpacking the Fragile Box
Imagine sitting with your child, the box between you. You want to protect them from pain, and yet you know avoiding it won’t make it disappear. You begin gently, carefully, one layer at a time. Your voice steady. Your heart open.
See yourself choosing your words the way you’d unwrap glass—slow, intentional, developmentally appropriate. You describe the truth with care: the addiction, the abuse, the incarceration, the violence. Not to burden, but to honor. Not to explain away, but to make space for meaning. You choose language that respects both the reality and your child’s emotional readiness.
Envision the shift in your child’s eyes when they realize you’re not afraid of what’s in the box. That you can handle their questions, their silence, their sadness. And that their past doesn’t define who they are—it’s just one part of the whole.
Your toolkit isn’t just full of facts or scripts—it’s made of tenderness, timing, and truth. With each conversation, you’re not simply sharing information. You’re offering a deep, steady message: You don’t have to carry this alone. Your story matters. And so do you.

How to Talk About Difficult Birth Histories
Drawing from her unique perspective as a licensed psychologist, transracial/international adoptee, and adoptive parent, Dr. Wirta-Leiker gently illuminates the emotional complexity of sharing difficult birth histories—stories that may include abuse, neglect, substance use, incarceration, or trauma. She understands that these conversations require more than facts—they require presence, sensitivity, and a deep respect for what your child is ready to hold.
This carefully crafted online course offers a grounded, compassionate framework for navigating even the most sensitive histories with developmentally appropriate language, emotional safety, and clarity. Through Dr. Wirta-Leiker’s expert and relatable guidance, you’ll gain the tools to share hard truths without overwhelming, to explore your own emotional responses, and to help your child build a narrative that reduces shame and fosters resilience. Her unique blend of clinical expertise and lived experience bridges the gap between knowing and doing—empowering you to become the safe, steady presence your child needs as they make sense of their story.
What’s Included:
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Engaging video lessons that you can watch at your own pace. -
Downloadable course slides to reinforce your learning. -
A cultivated resource list with links to further support your journey. -
Real-world strategies you can start using right away. -
Insights from the course instructor’s unique perspective as an international/transracial adoptee, adoptive parent, and licensed psychologist. -
A course completion certificate to recognize your achievement.

What You'll Learn

Understand the Foundations of Tough Conversations

Explore Your Own Reactions

Foster Healthy Internal Narratives

Use Developmentally Appropriate Language

Honor Your Child’s Right to Know
Unlike generic parenting courses or trauma workshops, Unit 6: How to Talk About Difficult Birth Histories is specifically designed for adoptive parents and adoption professionals.
Specialized Expertise
Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker combines her lived experience as an international/transracial adoptee and adoptive parent with professional expertise as a licensed psychologist specializing in adoption and trauma. Her unique perspective ensures you’re learning from someone who truly understands your challenges.
Actionable Framework
This course doesn’t just teach theory; it provides practical language, examples, and tools you can use immediately to begin having developmentally appropriate conversations with your child about their history.
Adoption-Specific Insights
While many adoption courses address general principles, this course focuses on the unique experiences of fosterees and adoptees who survived complex and stigmatized histories, making it highly relevant to your role as a parent or professional.
Affordable Accessibility
At just $45, this course is priced to be accessible without sacrificing depth or quality. It’s an investment that pays for itself many times over in improved relationships and outcomes.
Flexible Learning
The course is designed to fit your busy schedule, with video lessons you can watch at your own pace and resources you can revisit anytime.
What Others Are Saying About How to Talk About Difficult Birth Histories
This isn’t just another course; it’s a chance to benefit from the unparalleled expertise of Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker, a licensed psychologist with personal and professional insights as an international/transracial adoptee, adoptive parent, and trauma specialist.
Her unique perspective ensures that every strategy and tool is practical, actionable, and deeply informed by lived experience and clinical expertise.
Her unique perspective ensures that every strategy and tool is practical, actionable, and deeply informed by lived experience and clinical expertise.

These results aren’t just theoretical—they’re the outcomes of a proven approach grounded in years of expertise and practical application.
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Get actual words, examples, and frameworks that help these conversations unfold with care and clarity. -
Create a sense of safety for your adoptive child and adopted clients. -
Stand out as a more effective and empathetic parent and adoption professional. -
Gain insights that are tailored specifically to the challenges and nuances of complex birth stories and histories.
Frequently Asked Questions
This course is perfect for:
- Adoptive and Foster Parents who want to better understand and support their child’s unique needs while building stronger family connections.
- Adoption Professionals seeking specialized strategies to help the families and children they serve navigate complicated histories.
- Educators and Counselors looking for actionable insights to support adopted children in their care.
- Anyone who is committed to learning and applying adoption-informed approaches to foster healing and resilience in adopted children.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure about how to handle the complexities adoption, this course will give you the clarity, confidence, and tools to make a meaningful difference.
Adopted children often need support immediately, not weeks, months, or years down the road. Every moment spent feeling unsure or unprepared can delay healing and deepen the impact of trauma.
By taking action today, you can:
- Start building a safer, more understanding environment for the children you support.
- Reinforce healthy messaging around complicated histories for your child.
- Empower yourself with the tools to make a difference in your family or professional practice.
The affordable price and flexible format of this course mean there’s no reason to wait. This is your opportunity to invest in a brighter future for yourself and the children who rely on your guidance and care. Take advantage of this chance to make a lasting impact starting today.
This isn't just theory—it's transformation in action. You'll gain concrete, ready-to-use strategies that can be implemented with your child or client immediately. Our participants regularly report seeing positive changes from day one.
While you may have a strong foundation, Dr. Wirta-Leiker brings a rare triple perspective: licensed psychologist, international adoptee, and adoptive parent. Her unique insights and practical approaches often provide breakthrough moments even for experienced professionals and parents.
The entire course takes just 60 minutes to complete—less time than your favorite TV show! Access self-paced video lessons and downloadable materials anytime, anywhere. Review the content as often as you need, fitting learning perfectly into your busy life.
For less than the cost of a family dinner out ($45), you're gaining expert insights and practical tools that can transform your daily interactions. Think of it as investing in peace of mind and stronger relationships—benefits that last a lifetime.
Meet Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker
Drawing from both her personal and professional journeys, Dr. Wirta-Leiker offers a unique perspective on the challenges and opportunities faced by adoptees and those who care for them.
As an adoptee with firsthand experience and a parent striving to provide the best support possible, Dr. Wirta-Leiker’s work is deeply informed by lived experiences. She is also a trusted voice in adoption education, known for her compassionate and approachable teaching style and practical solutions. Dr. Wirta-Leiker is the author of the acclaimed “Adoptees Like Me” children’s book series, founder of the National Adoptee-Therapist Directory, and a highly sought-after speaker and trainer in the adoption community. Her passion for empowering others lies at the heart of this course, making it an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to make a meaningful impact in adoption-related relationships.

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